Pets Are Family to Everyone—Especially the Over-70 Generation
“We don’t stop loving our pets. In fact, for many of us, they are our constant companions—and very often, our reason for getting up in the morning.”
Those words were shared with me by a longtime client during a heartfelt conversation. She then asked, almost apologetically, “Do you, sir, have—or have you had—pets?”
Her question came from a place of deep love for the animals who had enriched her life, and from frustration as well. Frustration that the subject of pets is too often overlooked or misunderstood when seniors consider moving to a senior community.
For many older adults, pets are not simply animals. They are family. They are confidants, routine-keepers, and steady sources of comfort in a world that may feel increasingly uncertain. A dog or cat can bring purpose to each day—someone to care for, talk to, and love unconditionally.
There is also a powerful health connection. Medical experts have long recognized the benefits of pet companionship. Petting a dog or cat releases oxytocin—the “feel-good” hormone—helping to lower blood pressure, reduce anxiety, and calm the nervous system. Caring for an animal naturally draws our attention outward, easing loneliness and bringing joy. Quite simply, many of us could use a few more “happy hormones” in our lives.
To better understand how senior communities approach this important topic, I spoke with Adele Lund, a respected mentor and expert in senior living. She shared valuable insight from her years of experience.
Adele explained that it is very rare for a resident to acquire a new pet after moving into a community. Almost without exception, residents are bringing with them a longtime companion they simply cannot part with. That bond matters—and many communities recognize this.
Of course, guidelines are necessary to ensure everyone’s comfort and safety, especially since not all residents are pet owners. Commonly, pets are not permitted in dining rooms, lounges, or activity areas. Dogs are walked in designated outdoor spaces, and residents are expected to clean up after them. If that becomes difficult, many communities allow residents to hire a local service—often for a modest monthly fee—to help with pet care.
Most communities require a pet agreement, sometimes referred to as a “house pet” addendum. A refundable deposit—often around $500—is common, and residents are responsible for any pet-related damage. Typical requirements include:
Proof of rabies vaccination for dogs and cats
No rodents or reptiles (such as rabbits or hamsters)
Birds must remain caged at all times
Pets are not allowed in dining, lounge, or activity areas
Dogs and cats must be leashed outside the apartment
Residents must clean up after their pets
Designated entrances and exits must be used
If a resident is away for more than 24 hours, the pet must be cared for elsewhere
Some communities also have size or breed restrictions for dogs.
The good news—and there truly is good news—is that many senior communities today are genuinely pet-friendly. This has brought relief to countless seniors who delayed a needed move because they believed their beloved dog or cat would not be welcome.
Too often, I meet seniors who have chosen to struggle—maintaining a home that has become physically or financially overwhelming—because they could not imagine leaving their lifelong companion behind. Waiting for a beloved pet to pass before making a move can place unnecessary strain on both emotional and physical well-being. Life changes happen, sometimes suddenly, and decisions made in crisis often leave little room for choice.
If you are a pet owner, please know this: with the right planning, you and your companion can often make the move together.
Take time to visit communities. Ask questions. Learn their policies. You may be pleasantly surprised by the answers—and relieved to discover that a loving, supportive next chapter is closer than you thought.
And if you’d like guidance navigating these conversations or exploring pet-friendly options that honor both your needs and your heart, I’m always here to help—gently, patiently, and with great respect for the bond you share.